R. Kelly has always been an emotional guy, but who knew chick flicks got under his skin so badly? The ‘Write Me Back’ singer details his divorce from wife Andrea Kelly, including what led up to the split, in his new book, ‘Soulacoaster, The Diary of Me’. (We’ll give you a second to stop chuckling at the title. Okay, ready?) The biggest catalyst? Apparently, ‘The Notebook.’ Yes. ‘The Notebook.’

Kelly, who’s undergoing medical treatment for vocal cord issues, describes a lot of drama leading up to the demise of his marriage to his former dancer. He says that Andrea wasn’t thrilled about putting her dance career on hold to be a stay-at-home mom, while he had his own issues keeping it in his own pants. Not exactly a recipe for wedded bliss, right? (Though it likely provides some sweet inspiration for all those 32 chapters of ‘Trapped in the Closet’ that he’s working on.)

After a long series of dramatic and escalating arguments, the couple’s problems snowballed and eventually became an avalanche — resulting in Andrea hurling her $50,000 wedding ring into a pond in the couple’s yard.

Once Kelly knew he could pretty much stick a fork in the relationship, he went to the movies alone to reflect, where he took in the Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams melodrama. In his tome, he recounts how emotional the film got him. “As the film credits started to roll, I couldn’t move. I burst into tears. People walking past me patted me on the back, trying to console me,” Kelly wrote (excerpt via Hip-Hop Media Training). “‘The Notebook’ was beautiful, and I was crying because its hero and heroine had died together. But I was also crying because I remembered a Valentine’s Day — when a helicopter dropped a rainfall of roses — that had come and gone,” he lamented. “My marriage had died. And there was nothing I could do to bring it back.”

Maybe part of R. Kelly’s problems was expecting love to be like a Nicholas Sparks movie. Just because it worked for Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth doesn’t mean it works for everyone — it didn’t even last between the film’s stars, Gosling and McAdams.

Our advice, R.? Start watching action movies. You’ll cheer right up.

Watch the R. Kelly ‘When a Woman Loves’ Video