Weddings: Who Pays for What
Your son or daughter is getting married, what expenses are you responsible for and what expenses are the fiance's/fiancee's family responsible for?
In the last half a century, traditional expenses each set of parents are responsible for haven't changed all that much. What has changed are the add-ons, how big and elaborate the wedding and the gifts, pre-trips and pre-parties for the bridesmen and groomsmen.
There are no set rules as to what expenses the parents of a son or daughter absolutely must pay. Some families may not have the means to cover the costs of a wedding. In that case, the two families would have to come together and decide who's paying for what and how much will be spent.
On the other hand, if both families are willing to pay their fair share of wedding costs and the split is that of a traditional ceremony, the first step might be setting a budget and trying to stay within that budget. Let's give you the breakdown of a traditional wedding in 2022. Who pays for what?
Responsibilities/Expenses of the Bride
Groom's wedding band
All gifts for the bridesmaids, groom and parents
Hair and makeup for parents (both his and hers), bridesmaids and groomsmen
Responsibilities/Expenses of the Groom
Bride's engagement ring and wedding
His own attire
All gifts for the groomsmen and bride
Honeymoon (This is an expense that differs from one wedding to the next. In modern times, more often than not, the groom will cover the cost of the honeymoon. But is not uncommon for the groom's parents to cover this expense.
Responsibilities/Expenses of the Bride's Parents or Family
Brunch (If there is a brunch planned the next day)
Transportation for the bridesmaids
Accommodation for the bridesmaids
Responsibilities/Expenses of the Groom's Parents or Family
Fees for minister, priest or officiant
Boutonnieres, corsages and the bride's bouquet
Transportation for all groomsmen
Music/Entertainment (DJ and/or Band) and all alcohol served at the wedding reception
Wedding costs can get out of hand if you let them. The list of who's invited can become unmanageable if you let it. Where the celebration is held can be more elaborate than need be.
Remember the reason for all of it and you'll be okay. It's the love of two people, a love strong enough for each of them to come together as one...forever. That's the main reason for all the pomp and circumstance. Oh, and the reception is not for the bride and groom or their families...the reception is a party for the wedding party and the guests in attendance.
One more thing, make sure the bride and groom really want the wedding...and not just a party.